Friends do not always help your career and sometimes they can be hurting your chances for landing that management position.

Success and failure of any hospitality business have more to do with the friends who work there than the amenities, food, and service offered.

The people are the marketable commodity in any hospitality job. It doesn’t matter whether the job is a high profile, large franchise, or a small resort run by several generations of the same family.

Friend’s Advice

The first way that friends can ruin your career is by offering bad advice. It might sound good to you, and make sense. But if the advice doesn’t fit with your beliefs, goals, and passions then it is bad advice. What might be good advice for someone else can be bad advice for you!

The Golden Rule: Only Take Advice From People Who Are Currently Doing What You Want to Do and Being Who You Want to Be.

You may have a group of people who are your entire social world. They may have been with you a long time. They may even have a vested interest in your life, but that doesn’t mean they should tell you how to live your life.

If you fail, they will not help you pick up the pieces.

If you end up on the wrong career path and hate your job, they will not help re-educate you and support you.

Behavior Modification

If you hang around people long enough their mannerisms will become yours. You will adopt their perceptions and beliefs.  Successful people attract successful people. Partiers attract partiers. The ambitious like to hang out with other ambitious people.

Social Networking

This is where social networking comes in. Recruiters need to find managers who will stay at their restaurant for a minimum of one year, no matter how satisfied they are, no matter how much they enjoy the job.  Hospitality recruiters need friendly, ambitious, and dedicated professionals.

One way to verify if the information on your resume is correct is to see what is on your social networking sites. Are the people there likely to be friends with the person in the resume?

Your social networking reveals a lot about who you are, what you think, and what you ‘really’ believe.  People on your social networking site can also reveal your communication style and level, responsibility, and core beliefs.

Your Reputation

Friends can make or break your reputation.  We all use our friends as referrals, but what does that say about us? Instead of choosing a friend because they will say good things about you, consider how the prospective employer will feel when talking to that friend.

Will the friend impress your future employer? Will their communication style, passion, and education level support your resume?

Your Friends Are Not Experts

Do not put your career in your friend’s hands unless your friend is at least higher up the career development ladder and has mastered the job you want.  Friends are great when you want to brainstorm, but their ‘best guess’ can lead your career down the wrong path.