“If you love somebody, set them free.”
I don’t know if the phrase is one we should adhere to when it comes to
romantic relationships, no matter how convincingly Sting sings it. But I do
think that if we were to tweak it, and say instead, “If you’ve prepared
somebody, set them free,” the phrase would certainly be one we should
adhere to as leaders in the hospitality industry.
I don’t mean we should train people and then kick them out of the nest to
see how well they can fly. In my book—or pop song, if I were to sing one
(which, trust me, you don’t want me to do)—on-the-job training is just as
important as initial training. What I mean is that once you’ve given your
people enough training and tools to get the job done, it’s important to give
yourself permission to step back, let them put into practice what they’ve
learned, and coach from the sidelines.
Reinforcement coaching
By now, the terms reinforcement coaching and corrective coaching are
commonplace in our industry, and yet, as a result of the myriad demands
put upon leaders and managers, many of us neglect to put them into
practice consistently. We think of them as things we should do when we
have time instead of as an integral part of our everyday operations. When
they’re not a part of our regular in-house interactions, it can be easy to
forget their value.
Part of being a leader is being a strong
communicator with a positive attitude.
A strong communicator who believes
people can achieve far beyond what
they think is possible for themselves is
going to have a much better chance of
getting her people to gain an
understanding of the vision, mission and
big-picture goals of the organization.
Through reinforcement coaching, you
can inspire people to keep doing a job
well done, share your vision and show
by example it is possible to go
throughout your day with your
organization’s end goals in mind—and
that doing so makes a real
difference.
When I find myself talking about reinforcement coaching with hotel
managers, or with anyone for that matter, I usually wind up mentioning
Stephen R. Covey. The author’s idea of creating an emotional bank
account can be applied to all kinds of relationships, and yet I can’t think of
a relationship to which it can be applied to more transparently than to the
one between manager and employee.
When you engage in reinforcement coaching, you are essentially making a
deposit into someone’s emotional bank account. What if all you did was
point out the instances in which people were doing things wrong? How
receptive do you think they would be to your comments? If you correct
people without making regular deposits into their emotional bank accounts,
they’re going to become withdrawn pretty quickly when you try to correct
them. If, on the other hand, you’re the type of leader who regularly looks
for things employees are doing right and praises them along the way, odds
are you’ve built up substantial emotional bank accounts, and, as a result,
your employees are more receptive to correction.
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enough. Real reinforcement coaching is stopping what you’re doing,
addressing the employee by name, making eye contact, and taking the
time to be clear about what it is that you’re praising and why you’re
praising it. Be specific rather than general. State your observation, relate
it to one of your standards, and then explain how the employee’s actions
are benefiting the employee, coworkers, guests or organization as a whole.
Say something like, “Thank you for using the guest’s name at each checkin,
Maria. Meeting that standard really helps the guest feel a personal
connection and makes them want to come back.” This example lets the
employee know what she’s doing right and how her behavior is benefiting
the guest and the organization. It doesn’t just pat the employee on the
back, but presents her with a bigger picture and makes her more likely to
repeat the performance that meets the standard.
Reinforcement coaching is all about trying to catch people doing something
right. As a leader, you should constantly be looking for the little wins, the
things employees are doing well and according to standard, so you can
reinforce correct behaviors and develop an effective, efficient team that
produces better results.
Corrective coaching
The first thing leaders have to decide whenever employees stray from the
proper path or away from the end goal is not to ignore it. This is often
easier said than done. Acknowledging behaviors that don’t meet standards
can be uncomfortable, particularly if a manager is new or has been newly
promoted and is now responsible for staff members they consider peers.
Many managers simply believe they’re too busy to point it out each time
an employee’s behavior doesn’t meet the standard.
Solid corrective coaching techniques can make correcting behaviors that
don’t meet the standards less stressful and less time-consuming. Some of
these techniques include:
• using the employee’s name;
• making eye contact;
• acknowledging the behavior that didn’t meet the standard (without
putting the employee on display);
• asking a “What is the effect?” question in order to get the employee to
consider the consequences of their actions;
• acknowledging the things the employee is doing right; and
• letting employees know how a change in their behavior will have a
positive impact in the big picture.
The next time you see someone engaging in a behavior that doesn’t meet
the standard, pull them aside. Then, state what you observed them doing
in the form of a question. Good questions force employees to consider the
effects of their actions. Don’t ask, “Linda, what do you think you just did
wrong?” Instead, say, “Linda, could you step over here for a minute? I was
watching you check in those last five guests. When you don’t use the
guest’s name during check-in, what do you think is the effect?” Pause and
let the employee answer.
Whether you do it at the beginning, middle, or end of a corrective
coaching moment, you should also acknowledge the things that the
employee is doing correctly. You might say something like, “Thanks for
meeting our timing standard and getting those guests checked in
efficiently. I can see that your coworkers take cues from your example in
that regard. If you remember to use the guest’s name every time, I know
your coworkers will remember to do it, too.” A comment like this lets an
employee know you appreciate the things they’re doing right. It also
makes clear that even though you’re seeking to correct a certain behavior,
you’re not doing it because you want to harp on them, but because
correcting the behavior will have a specific benefit.
It’s been said the wisest leaders are those who make the most of the time
they spend with their people. Set your people up for success through a
structured training program, but once that’s in place, step over to the
sidelines and become the coach. There’ll be no limit to the potential you
and your team can fulfill.



